Many years ago I overheard a discussion between several men about the number of ways they could get out going to work.  They were describing to each other how to use the different excuses (now we call this ‘sharing’!).  They were actually excited about the number of ways they could get out of going to work.  These ideas ranged from sick children, parent-teacher meetings, sick spouse, sick mother, car problems (use this one sparingly they suggested), etc.

To them, these excuses were merely a means to avoid their responsibility – the responsibility of showing up and doing a days work for a days pay.  The responsibility of providing for their family.  If they get caught abusing the privilege of caring for their family (frequently not coming to work) and get fired, who suffers?  Their family!

There are legitimate times we must take care of our families.  But the overuse of excuses could be harmful to your career, and maybe even your relationships.  Have you been passed over for a promotion?  Did you rationalize the reason as because ‘someone had it in for you’?  Maybe someone did.  Maybe it was your boss, and he/she has seen your attendance record and deemed you as undependable.

Many times when we search for ways to avoid responsibility, there are other issues lurking inside of us that may need to be looked at.  It may be time for that long hard look at your core values.  What do you value.  What are you willing to fight for? 

I read somewhere that 'if you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything’.

- Joe Freeman